About Rudy
A little about me
After years of sacrificing myself for others and calling it love, I finally learned to love myself too.
I’ve come to enjoy my own company. I love spending time with my books, listening to music and dancing. My tastes have changed over the years, and I enjoy the journey of discovering what moves me now, what brings me peace, and what I’d like to experience next.
I feel fortunate when something I’ve lived or learned can become useful to someone else. That’s what I want to share with you: something from my own journey that helps you hear yourself more clearly and reminds you to love yourself too.
The step I was afraid to take
I'll never forget how scared I was when I decided to take a course that meant being away all weekend, every weekend. My husband worked abroad, yet I kept thinking about what would happen when he came home and I wasn’t there.
I had come to believe that I had to be available whenever he returned. I had given up a lot of dreams because of that belief, and I couldn’t even imagine what my life would look like without it. All I could imagine was what he would say about it.
But for the first time, I took the step and started that course.
None of the reactions I had imagined actually happened. On the contrary, he was very proud of me. He even came to my graduation from that same course and celebrated with me.
That experience showed me how much we can fear a reaction we've imagined. And when a client tells me they're afraid of how someone will respond, I end up remembering my own experience. It helps me understand their fear and explain how we sometimes create a whole scene in our minds before anything has happened. My mentor called it a limiting belief.
And I had experienced first-hand how limiting it was.
I still have those moments. We all do.
I still sometimes judge myself and others. But now, I notice it as it happens and ask why I've responded that way. I see the reaction as a message about something I still need to work on, and understanding my own reactions has helped me understand other people too.
There are easier days and harder days. What has changed is how I view those moments and what I learn from them, but I’m still learning about myself too.
Finding my way back to myself
I love the sound of the sea. When I look at the water and sky, I can become so absorbed in the scene that it moves me to tears. I feel the greatness of the Creator, a sense of connection, of oneness. It makes me wonder about life, my place in it, and how much there is still to understand.
With all my love for my family, I also dream of spending time there alone. Time to reflect, to sit with my questions and listen to what I feel.
That connection isn’t something I feel all the time. Sometimes, with everything happening around me, I lose touch with myself. I’m learning to recognize those moments and find my way back, and that’s okay. It’s only human.
I want to bring that same presence and transparency to our conversations – to listen, explore your questions with you, and help you make sense of what you’re living through. And there will always be more to discover as we go through life. But you don’t have to do it alone.
Training & qualifications
My training gives me different tools to draw on. I bring what I've learned alongside my own experience, and keep the person I'm speaking with at the center of the work.
My coaching background includes:
- NLP Practitioner certification
- NLP Master certification
- Wellness Coaching certification
- CBT training
- Mastering Health, Resilience, and Self-Discipline: A Neuroscience-Based Journey
Professional membership
I'm an active member of the Syndicate of self-development coaches and consultants.
- Membership name
- Rouaida Merhi
- Membership number
- 115
- Specialty
- NLP Coach
- Member since
- Card valid until
Getting to know you
I’d love to hear what brings you here and understand what matters to you. We can start with whatever you feel comfortable sharing.
In our conversations, I want to help you reconnect with a part of yourself you’ve kept hidden. As you begin to hear and understand it, your own answers can come to light.
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